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Bill's comments: Are you with the right one? Answer these four questions HONESTLY, and you should know for sure. Back to you, Dr. Phil!


Meant For Each Other? Four Questions To Ask Yourself
By Laura Snyder

Lust is so easy to recognize. But real, honest-to-goodness love? Well, that's a little trickier. Fortunately, we've got four clues that can help you recognize whether your honey is just a good time, or something even better.


Are you in there?

It's easy to lose yourself in lust. But for real love to take place, you still have to be yourself, living your own life, with your own separate interests and dreams. Are you able to be yourself around your sweetie (or do you find yourself biting your tongue to keep from saying something you know will be met with disapproval)? It takes trust to be able to reveal your not-so-good side. Have you got it?

Are you fighting fair?

It's not whether or not you fight - because you will - it's how you do it. Do you both address the issues that irk you or do you ignore them? Do either of you resort to down-and-dirty fighting tactics (getting defensive, name-calling, etc)? Are you keeping a record of who "wins" and "loses"? Or do you use these "discussions" as an opportunity to get what's bothering you out in the open and come to a mutually satisfying solution?

Are you on the same page?

It's not enough that you both love the same movies and music. Do you have a general idea of your potential partner's values, goals, and what's important to them? Don't fret if there are differences in your ideals. Just determine whether they're non-issues (he's a dog person, you're a cat person), complimentary (he's a morning person...but he makes you coffee), or something that might cause friction down the road (like differences in the desire to have kids), so you know what to expect.

Are you cared for?

Real lovers play for the same team. Is your mate there for you when you need them, cheering you on when you face challenges, picking you up when you fall, and just generally making you feel nurtured?

Bill's Final Words: As a former friend and radio personality used to say, "If you really like somebody, you should tell them!" I agree whole-heartedly. Don't hesitate to say it, because you will never know if you don't. Even the shyest individual will muster up some courage to say something, provided there is no outside interference.